Why people stay in abusive relationships

“On many occasions it has been said that a person who is in an abusive relationship, remains in [an] abusive relationship, always says, ‘But I’m in love. Why would I want to move out of an abusive relationship?’

Because that relationship is satisfying a basic need within that individual. The need of denigration. The need to know that they are not equal to all that exists around them for if they were, then they would have to accept their beauty, their creativity, their talents, their abilities, and they choose not to accept those.”

– The Wonders


Excerpt from Blind Man! Blind Man! Is This Really Love?


Is it normal to be sexual?

“We assure you dear friends that one of the most beneficial, one of the most normalistic aspects of your soul energy is to be sexual, for your sexuality brings about a certain likeness within the self, a certain element within the self that stipulates that you are energy.

Soul itself manifests itself in a loving way in every situation possible. That you yourselves, as ego personalities, as physical human beings, choose to manifest your sexuality in limited fashions is a personal choice predicated upon certain belief structures that you have accepted, that you have integrated within yourself.

However, we assure you that spirit itself views sexuality as simply an act of pleasure, an opportunity to experience the true essence of itself.

Now, it has been said by a number of individuals that sexuality is the nearest to spirituality that one can possibly come to for in truth, it is as pleasurable and as light an energy as spirit energy.

We assure you that is virtually true. Not quite, but virtually true.

Sexuality is a part of spirit. Spirit is a part of your sexuality. Use it. Enjoy it. Pleasure yourselves. However, dear friend, recognize one thing.

In the pleasure of sexuality, not once have we stipulated that you impose your idea of pleasure on another. Pleasure is to yourself, to your own ideas. Another’s idea of pleasure may not be the equivalent.

And therefore, dear friends, choose that if you wish to experience sexuality with another, choose another whose experience is equivalent to your own.”

– The Wonders


Excerpt from Sexuality And Spirituality – An Introduction


Do I have an inner child inside of me?

“Realize that each and every individual, no matter what circumstances, has a part of themselves, a small portion of themselves, that still sees itself as a child.

It isn’t a denigration of your adult self to acknowledge that there is a child part inside of you that likes to come out every now and again and manifest itself. However, given that, the child part does like to play, we agree, but the child part also has its own belief structures and psychologies surrounding it, doesn’t it?

For example, it will only play under certain circumstances because it sees those as safe, you see?

So the key here is to realize that the inner child – that child part inside of you, call it the ‘inner child’ – that is still in existence, that still likes to come out and play every now and again, also has a psychology and belief structure around it that defines actions and choices you make often times.

A lot of your fears, for example, come from your inner child because you see circumstances based on your present environment and they are judged by the inner child, for that is the part that a lot of people work from.

Not everyone has grown completely into an adult. In fact, virtually the whole population, all of the individuals, all of humanity on the planet Earth to one degree or another, has an inner child part inside of them.

Sometimes it is a rather humorous, playful part. A lot of times it is a part that filters the choices and actions taken in such a way as to cause self harm. Not always, but a lot of times.

An example of this is if you were to take a child and put them in front of a group of people who are yelling and screaming at them. The child would retreat in fear for after all, these are all adults screaming at them.

But take an individual who is an adult, who is owning their adulthood, and put them in the same group of individuals, and they would quite simply tell all of those individuals to stop screaming. They would deal with it differently.

The child would retreat, the adult would stand its ground.

So if you find yourselves in a circumstance where you yourselves recognize a fear, it is of benefit to examine, does this fear have anything to do with that small, child part inside of you that still exists?

Most individuals don’t realize how strong this child part is. The child part is very much at play in most individuals to such a degree in fact that it filters at least 60 to 70 percent of everything that they do. In some cases, for some individuals, almost up to 90 percent.

So the resultant is you find yourselves looking to understand, explore, discover who you are but if there is a willingness to deny, ignore, denigrate the inner child, then what happens is you miss a good portion of yourselves, don’t you?”

– The Wonders


Excerpt from Exploring The Inner Child – Part 1. Listen to the full recording here.


Your existence is a series of choices

“The resultant of every choice is choice.

If you view it from that perspective, and you begin to see that which we have suggested, then you begin to recognize that your existence is comprised of a series of choices, each one resulting from another choice, interacting therefore with each other and creating that which you perceive as your reality, your existence.”

– The Wonders


Excerpt from Series 179: The Underlying Reality Of Blockages


Why we depend on another’s guidance instead of our own

“[Individuals] can easily point at another and use the justification that the other’s perspective is not entirely accurate in order to satisfy their perspective of themselves.

The majority of times the reason this occurs is because the individual himself or herself is unwilling to take the time to observe themselves without judgment in order to gain an appreciation of themselves.

Notice what we’ve said here. Most individuals are unwilling to take the time to observe themselves without judgment in order to gain an appreciation of themselves.

Now, when we say these words, those of you listening to this series of audio recordings, some of you define appreciation as appreciation of the ‘good’ parts of yourself.

So you define appreciation through the filter of judgment. In other words, ‘I appreciate that I am beautiful. I appreciate that I’m intelligent. I appreciate that I’m courageous. I appreciate that I’m loving. I appreciate that I’m giving. But I do not appreciate that I’m miserly. I do not appreciate that I’m jealous. I do not appreciate that I’m angry. I do not appreciate that I’m hurtful.’

If those were your qualities, there would be limited appreciation of yourself because in truth, most individuals are unwilling to observe themselves without judgment and therefore appreciate all aspects of the self.”

– The Wonders


Excerpt from Series 179: The Underlying Reality Of Blockages