People want their fears validated

“This is why people in the United States have elected Donald Trump. He validated their fears. He made their fears valid and real. He acknowledged them.

He said ‘you are right! There are people out to hurt you. There are people out to harm you. And they exist across the border in Mexico. Which is why we need a border wall built along the border so that they cannot come into the country…’”

­– The Wonders


Listen to the full podcast entitled Living In A Fearful World (070119)


Fear is overtaking everything

“There are some people in the world, some people in humanity, who aren’t afraid, who don’t have those fears, and they often times do and have in the past become the beacons for others to not be afraid.

But unfortunately, what is happening now in humanity is those beacons are shining not as bright because the fear is overtaking everything.

And why is it overtaking? Because people allow it.”

– The Wonders


Comment from our latest podcast Living In A Fearful World (070119)


Tell me I’m not crazy. Tell me I’m right.

“Each and every one of you, if you take a look at yourselves, day in and day out, minute by minute, day by day, week by week, month by month, and year by year, you spend a great deal of energy validating your feelings.

You want to validate what you know, or think you know.

If you’re feeling happy, you want to validate that. If you’re feeling sad, you want to validate that. And if you’re feeling afraid, that you must validate.

And you must look everywhere around you to ensure that you get that validation. And you attract people who will validate it because after all, that’s what you’re looking for. You’re looking for someone who will say, ‘you’re not crazy. You’re right. It is real. What you’re afraid of is happening. It is real.’

And this is what’s going on in the world right now.

The United States has elected a President who fuels that fear more and more, feeds on it. Why does he feed on it? Because he’s one of the most fearful individuals you could have elected.

He wants his fears validated. So what does he do? He creates the very thing he’s afraid of.”

– The Wonders



Excerpt from our first Thursday study group of the year.


How can I stop blaming others for feeling angry and upset?

“When you look to blame others and to get others to change to stop you from being angry, ask yourself this question: what’s wrong with your anger? What is wrong with being angry?

Notice what we are suggesting here is that there is no wrong and that there is no right in anger. It’s just that there is. Anger is a state. And regardless of how you define yourself, you will move sometimes – often times – through that state.

So why judge yourself for being in that state?”

– The Wonders


Continue to explore how to express anger by listening to this full podcast episode here.


It’s okay to be angry

“Why judge yourself for being angry? For being in the state of anger?

Give yourself the permission to be that angry in that state of anger.

And if it means that you scream, scream. If it means that you cry, cry. If it means that you laugh, laugh.

But whatever you do, recognize this.

To express your anger in a productive fashion, in a beneficial fashion, we would suggest express it in a way that is beneficial to you, that creates no harm in others or yourself, and that reflects your sense of self…”

– The Wonders


Continue to explore how to express anger by listening to this full podcast episode here.