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What happens when you say ‘I’m not good enough’

“Imagine what would happen if an individual who wants to make more money says to themselves, because of their perceptions that they’re not good enough, ‘I’ll never get that job.’

So they go into that job for a interview and of course they don’t get the job. Why? Because they’re so afraid that they’re not going to get it, that they’re not good enough, that it comes across in the interview.

It’s like the person’s sitting there saying to the interviewer, ‘please don’t hire me I’m not really good enough. I don’t know if I can do this job, I don’t know if I’m good enough.’

And so, the interviewer is more than willing to accommodate. Why would they want someone who comes in and is too afraid? […]

But what if that individual, instead of walking in with the perception that they’re not good enough so why would they get the job, changed the perception, changed the choice, and saw themselves instead as sufficient or good enough?

What if they just saw themselves as being capable?

They don’t have to validate it with everybody else’s ideas, they don’t have to have everybody in the world going along and saying oh yes, you’re really good, and everybody’s shaking his hand.

All they have to do is say to themselves I am good enough so that when they walk into that particular job, they don’t walk in begging for a job, they walk in saying, ‘this is mine, just give it to me please.’ You see? ‘I’m good enough to do this, I’m capable enough, please give me the job.’ You see?

All of a sudden, the interviewer, observing body language, verbal skills, etc. sees someone who has a certain confidence about them. Who has an ability, a desire to work, an ability to accomplish, and a certain sufficiency within them. And so of course they’d hire that individual, wouldn’t they?

And all it took was a change in perception. That’s all it took.

What if the guy going up the street and wanting to ask the girl out on a date goes up to her thinking he’s not good enough [and] why would she ever look at him, she’s a gorgeous woman, she’s very attractive, she could have anybody why would she want him?

That girl who wants to date him has to go through all of that before she can get to the point of, ‘yes, I want to date you.’ Whereas if he walks up and changes his own perception of himself that he is good enough, not that he’s better than anybody else, just that he’s good enough and why wouldn’t she date him, then he goes up to her and says, would you like to go on a date? She says of course I would. And it’s simple and it’s easy then, isn’t it?

And that’s exactly what life is all about, isn’t it?

So all it takes is a small shift in perception. It doesn’t take a lot. You don’t have to sit there and convince yourself. You don’t have to sit there and talk yourself into this. You don’t have to sit there and use affirmations to prove to yourself that you are, that you’re different. No.

Just change the way you think, change the perception of what it is you see. Change it! And then all of a sudden, fear no longer holds its power over you. And when fear does not hold its power, then it becomes simple choice. And then, of course, it’s what do you choose? Do you see how easy that is?”

– The Wonders

 

Excerpt from podcast #070308 (click to listen)

 

Why don’t I feel fulfilled?

“Some would convince themselves that they’re quite happy.

But in actual fact it’s not that they’re quite happy, it’s that they’re not fulfilled. Something’s missing. Something’s not quite altogether there. There’s a yearning inside of them.

And of course, most people what they do is they look around and they think to themselves, ‘if only I had enough money to buy a new house I’d be okay, if only I had enough money to go out and buy a new car I’d be okay, if only I had enough money to go on a trip I’d be okay, if only I had enough money to buy food I’d be okay, if only I had enough money to buy that new pair of shoes I’d be okay.’

There’s always an if-only. It doesn’t matter if you live in poverty or you live in wealth, there’s always an if-only. Even a wealthy person has an if-only. You see?

So everyone’s looking for if-only and no one is really getting it yet that the if-only is a yearning inside of them that’s basically not if only I had this or that, it’s basically if only I chose.

So they use that to think to themselves if they could only acquire something else, another material thing, but the if-only really goes even deeper than material. It goes to the very core essence of themselves that’s about choice.

What they’re trying to say to themselves is if only I wasn’t afraid to choose.”

– The Wonders

 

Excerpt from podcast #070125 (click to listen)

 

Understanding your sexual energy

“You are by the very nature of yourselves sexual beings.

You came into this world with a sexual energy, part of which is to be used to explore this existence. It’s one of the reasons you came here.

If you didn’t want to explore sexual energy, why would you incarnate as human beings with sexual parts? Why would you incarnate into an existence that uses sexual energy as a way of moving itself from one point to another?

We assure you, dear friends, if there was no desire to explore sexual energy, you wouldn’t incarnate into this dimension of reality.

Third dimensional reality, not only is a perspective of time and space, it also has an ability to explore sexual energy. This is where part of it resides. It resides in other dimensions as well, but it does reside, a good portion of it, in third dimensional reality.

And it allows you, as a soul essence, allows you to explore it more willingly, more directly, and with less blockages…”

– The Wonders

 

Excerpt from podcast episode #061116

 

Your mind cannot grasp fully what reality is

“Don’t be afraid.

Do not fear being different. Do not fear the questioning. Do not fear observing differently, reflecting differently.

Because if you do, you can never allow yourself to realize that reality as some of you know it is simply a construct that is handy to your mind to explain things. Your mind cannot grasp fully what reality is. Not on the basis of your present justifications and judgments…”

– The Wonders

 

Excerpt from our latest workshop series 1192: The Different Layers Underlining Reality

 

What happens when you see yourself as NOT good enough

“You cannot change yourself by changing the world around you. You must change yourself and the world around you will change.

This is why we constantly say to people look at yourself. Not to see yourself as the center of the universe or the center of everything around you, but look at yourself and realize that by looking at yourself and observing yourself and appreciating yourself and shifting who you are, how you perceive yourself, you then will change everything around you.

How many people go around and see themselves as poor?

They’re not good enough to make money. They’re not good enough to accept more. You see? So when they look at themselves they say, ‘I’m not good enough to accept more.’

Well, guess what?

They don’t get a whole lot of more around them, do they? And what they do get, they see themselves as not good enough so they don’t ever accept it, do they?

So why would the universe give you a whole abundance of money, as an example, when you see yourself as not being good enough to accept anything.

So think about it. Would you look at opportunities that would give you money? Would you put yourself into a circumstance where there is money?

How many people do you know that look at somebody and say, ‘Man, that guy’s got the Midas touch. Everything he touches makes money.’ Well why does everything he touch make money? Because he seems himself good enough to make money. You see?

So they envy this person. They dream of being this person. They think to themselves, oh I’d like to be just like him. But they never make the choices to be like him. They keep on dreaming, and they stick themselves into that dream state and then they say to themselves, ‘but I’m not good enough.’

And so they go on in life perceiving themselves as not good enough so, of course, they’re not going to make choices that bring money easily to them, will they? They’ll make choices that brings money to them, but they have to work at it.

How many people do you know that have the psychology that they must work hard for their money?

Most people in North America come from immigrant families that have migrated from European stock. They struggled. They had to fight the elements to get to North America. They had to fight the elements in North America to survive. And they had to fight in order to maintain themselves. So yes, their whole lives are a struggle, aren’t they?

And it’s been passed down from generation to generation to generation that the whole concept of fighting is a noble cause. It’s something that has been bred into you. It’s part of your blood, it’s part of your history, it’s part of your line, it’s part of who you are. Your father struggled, your grandfather struggled, your great grandfather struggled, and you’re going to struggle. You see? There’s a pride in the struggle.

Well when that happens, guess what? Your life becomes a struggle because the only way you can see yourself and define yourself and observe yourself is if there is a struggle to […] measure yourself against.

You look at yourself and you say, ‘I am strong and powerful because I can overcome these adversity in my life.’ Your sense of power comes from overcoming adversity. Well if there’s no adversity, how would you know your power?

So the resultant is they put all of their energy, all of their effort, into overcoming a struggle to prove to themselves how sufficient they are, how capable they are, how good enough they are.

But they’re not realizing that through the rest of their life they’re going around saying, ‘I’m not good enough to accept this, I’m not good enough to accept that, I’m not good enough to do this, I’m not good enough to do that, I’m not good enough to try this, I’m not good enough to try that.’”

– The Wonders

 

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