From a young age, we are exposed to the idea of the perfect life: the princess meets her prince, and the two live happily-ever-after.
As we grow, our exposure to the perfect life continues: prince charming is to be attracted, and the princess is to be found and protected.
All of our choices revolve around creating this perfect life. We educate ourselves with the intent of gaining recognition and, more importantly, the attention of our prince charming/princess.
We present ourselves in a way that would attract our prince or princess. We use social media to create the illusion of perfection: ‘That profile picture doesn’t capture my most attractive side, it’s not perfect, I’ll remove it.’ And perfection becomes more and more important.
All of this an attempt to create the perfect life we fell in love with when we were young.
When we don’t see ourselves moving towards this perfect life, we see something wrong. We believe without a doubt that something is missing. We fixate on the perfect lives of others – celebrities, royalty weddings, even reality shows. We are shocked, and relieved, when we realize others aren’t always as perfect as we imagined.
The alternative: stop re-reading the fairy tale.