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What happens when you say ‘I’m not good enough’

“Imagine what would happen if an individual who wants to make more money says to themselves, because of their perceptions that they’re not good enough, ‘I’ll never get that job.’

So they go into that job for a interview and of course they don’t get the job. Why? Because they’re so afraid that they’re not going to get it, that they’re not good enough, that it comes across in the interview.

It’s like the person’s sitting there saying to the interviewer, ‘please don’t hire me I’m not really good enough. I don’t know if I can do this job, I don’t know if I’m good enough.’

And so, the interviewer is more than willing to accommodate. Why would they want someone who comes in and is too afraid? […]

But what if that individual, instead of walking in with the perception that they’re not good enough so why would they get the job, changed the perception, changed the choice, and saw themselves instead as sufficient or good enough?

What if they just saw themselves as being capable?

They don’t have to validate it with everybody else’s ideas, they don’t have to have everybody in the world going along and saying oh yes, you’re really good, and everybody’s shaking his hand.

All they have to do is say to themselves I am good enough so that when they walk into that particular job, they don’t walk in begging for a job, they walk in saying, ‘this is mine, just give it to me please.’ You see? ‘I’m good enough to do this, I’m capable enough, please give me the job.’ You see?

All of a sudden, the interviewer, observing body language, verbal skills, etc. sees someone who has a certain confidence about them. Who has an ability, a desire to work, an ability to accomplish, and a certain sufficiency within them. And so of course they’d hire that individual, wouldn’t they?

And all it took was a change in perception. That’s all it took.

What if the guy going up the street and wanting to ask the girl out on a date goes up to her thinking he’s not good enough [and] why would she ever look at him, she’s a gorgeous woman, she’s very attractive, she could have anybody why would she want him?

That girl who wants to date him has to go through all of that before she can get to the point of, ‘yes, I want to date you.’ Whereas if he walks up and changes his own perception of himself that he is good enough, not that he’s better than anybody else, just that he’s good enough and why wouldn’t she date him, then he goes up to her and says, would you like to go on a date? She says of course I would. And it’s simple and it’s easy then, isn’t it?

And that’s exactly what life is all about, isn’t it?

So all it takes is a small shift in perception. It doesn’t take a lot. You don’t have to sit there and convince yourself. You don’t have to sit there and talk yourself into this. You don’t have to sit there and use affirmations to prove to yourself that you are, that you’re different. No.

Just change the way you think, change the perception of what it is you see. Change it! And then all of a sudden, fear no longer holds its power over you. And when fear does not hold its power, then it becomes simple choice. And then, of course, it’s what do you choose? Do you see how easy that is?”

– The Wonders

 

Excerpt from podcast #070308 (click to listen)